If You Can’t Control your Emotions, You Can’t Control Your Money

I can already hear some of you saying, “that’s not true, look at all of the erratic behavior of wealthy celebrities and socialites.” YES, exactly. They are overspending, have people on their teams stealing from them or abusing their expense accounts, and many of these people owe millions in back taxes!!!

My point is just because someone is rich doesn’t mean they will remain that way for years to come. Erratic, irrational, crazy, toxic emotional behavior will affect your earnings whether you are middle class or uber rich. It’s all relative. • Approx 4 years ago, I was an emotional mess but I wasn’t aware of it. I was a full blown workaholic with exercise bulimia, and dating all the wrong guys. I also was making more $$$ than ever before. Guess what happened, I lost almost 400k in hard cash in less than a year! I had someone steal from me, I leant money to someone who never paid me back, had a business deal with no signed contract (my fault), and I was paying other people’s bills out of some made up obligation. On the street things looks damn good but inside my brain and my bank account was pure chaos.

So the master of money Warren Buffet is damn right. When our emotional life is in chaos so is our financial life.

Thoughts from my Bath Tub

My best and most creative ideas don’t come to me when I’m frazzled, anxious, and stressed; they flow in when I’m calm, relaxed, and quiet. On Sundays I fully embrace #selfcaresunday. I ask my inner child (Little Tiffy ☺️) what she needs, and I honor it above all else. 💜 Sometime she blurts out, “color, I want to color!” Other times like today she replied with, “I want quiet.” Try it, ask “Little _________ what do you need today?” Then honor that need above all else, no matter how silly it sounds. 💜, Tiffany and Little Tiffy

The Best and Worst Uses of Imagination

Anytime you’re stuck in worry, anxiety, and fear, pause and help redirect your energy by engaging in something creative. Some things that work for me: coloring, working on my vision board, hand embroidery (I’m not great at it but love doing it), create a goals list with fun colored pens and stickers (I’m obsessed with stickers-yes I’m really 10).

Typically after about 20 minutes my anxiety brain has turned off. I would rather put my mental energy towards something creative and productive than stress about 💩 I can’t control.

What do you guys do to de-stress?

My Eating Disorder Recovery

The girl (me) in this photo 👆 may look happy, healthy, vibrant, fit, and like I’m lovin’ life. IT’S A LIE! A lie I tried to force my self to believe every day, to the point where it nearly killed me.

I was working 12 hours a day, taking breaks only to exercise (approx 3 hours per day!), 6 days a week. This went on for many years. I used work and exercise to define my self-worth and as an escape from dealing with my soul wounds.

I did reach a bottom and got help. I removed the workaholic in me. Then I subconsciously amped up the exercise addict within me to the point of #exercisebulimia. If you aren’t familiar with this term, it’s when someone uses exercise to an extreme to control weight and/or offset calories consumed. I would HAVE to work out or I would have a panic attack. Everyone around me thought I was just super into fitness and really healthy. Yes I was into fitness but out of self-hate (for my body) not out of self-love. I would have NEVER stopped this insanity (there’s even a fitness program with this name 🙄) if I didn’t get side-lined with Adrenal Fatigue stage 3 (boarder line 4). My body nearly stopped producing cortisol (a hormone required to stay alive) because I had my body/mind in such a constant state of excessive stress, that it was pumping excessive cortisol for years. My lifestyle taught my body that I didn’t need to produce anymore cortisol as I had too much in my system. I literally had to hold on to the wall to take a shower. There was zero energy and therefor zero ability to exercise. So you can imagine what that did to me mentally, given exercise was my main drug of choice, my false identity, my life, my way of coping, my everything.

I resented my diagnosis of AF for a long time and now I’m thankful for it.

Embracing Stillness & Silence

It’s in the silence where our most productive healing is done. I use to subconsciously avoid stillness and silence by filling up every second of my day with work, chores (even reorganizing my sock drawer), crappy guys that I wasn’t even interested in, hours and hours at the gym (to the point of major injury and exhaustion), the list goes on and on and on. • It wasn’t until I embraced stillness and silence that I truly started to deeply heal my soul wounds. Wow it wasn’t easy, sooooo uncomfortable at first. Now I crave it, my health depends on it, and I make it a huge priority no matter where i am in the 🌍

Working on my Confidence in Cancun

Not feeling my most confident self in this pic, but I decided to post it anyway as I’m working on being feeling great in my skin regardless of how I think I look (this opinion can change 15x per day). The point of this photo was to capture the fun and beautiful moment in Cancun, not for a glamour shot. Especially after walking in the blazing sun for 90 minutes. It feels good to get over my self, even if it’s for one post 😝

My Generous, Wonderful Fiancé

I’m constantly fascinated by people. This human here 👆(my fiancé) amazes me. He grew up poor in The Valley (like oh my god) of LA, and was raised by a father who came from a place of lack and scarcity. Many people I know who were raised this way have a “broke-ass” mentality as I call it. Meaning they are cheap, operate out of fear, and believe there is never enough money. Mike on the other hand is abundantly generous with everyone. Generous with his money, his time, acts of service, and patience (with me 😉). We are staying at an all-inclusive resort, where they state that tips are included as well. While most people would say, “cool” Mike says, “I bet these hard working people are being paid minimum wage.” He proceed to tip each and every person who serves us generously, every day. He does this without waiting for a gracias or looking to be noticed. Now that’s what I call the definition of generosity. 💜💜💜🙏

Make it Happen

Whatever it is you want, you can dream about it, talk about it, stress about it, even pray about it, but one thing is for sure…none of it will manifest unless you show the Universe that you’re serious by taking consistent action. . If you chose to keep your dreams stuck in your mind, then the Universe will see that you aren’t that serious about wanting what it is you “say” you want. MAKE IT HAPPEN! Even with daily baby steps. Get daily encouragement from me and other cool 😎 female entrepreneurs like @angielee.tv @emilyvavra @iammelwells @badassbusinessbabe to keep you motivated, and in faith versus fear. 💜, Tiffany

We Don’t Have to do it all Alone!

I use to think if you were strong and independent, that meant you were suppose to do everything on your own like it was no big deal. WOW WAS I WRONG! True strength is knowing when you need help and with what, AND ASKING FOR WHAT YOU NEED. As I’m starting my second business (ProjectME), I am hiring people who to help me bring my vision to life. I’m attracting the perfect people with great talent to launch this brand to the moon. Having a team makes this process a hell of a lot easier and much more fun.

Self-Sabotage

Low self-worth = low net-worth. This 👆 is exactly what I’ll be teaching in ProjectME the Money Program. I’ve designed it to help you uncover where you are sabotaging yourself and your goals, and how to develop a different way of operating. • Regardless if you are wealthy or poor, we can sabotage our success at any level. It may look different when you are worth millions versus living paycheck to paycheck, but the principals and steps to reclaim your worth are exactly the same.