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Don’t Look Back, You’re Not Going That Way.

 

 

 

When driving, it’s important to look at the review mirror, but if you stare at it, you will crash.

The same principle applies to our lives. Yes it’s important to reflect on our past, but to stay focused on that for too long will keep us stuck.

If you find yourself in a low energy space, check-in and see if your focus has drifted off the present and into the past. I tend to stay a bit too long on Memory Lane when I’m feeling fatigued or under the weather. Turning onto What If Avenue and If Only Circle, only leads to depressing destinations.

I pull my rental car over and regroup. I reset my GPS to the present, a route that leads me to hopeful and exciting destinations. For I have a choice of which direction I follow, and I choose today.

Handling Stress & Overwhelm

Feeling overwhelmed lately? Feel like you have more things to do than there is time to do it? YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Getting and staying in a place of overwhelm will end up leading to paralysis, which only increases anxiety, fear, and fatigue. Over the last 10 years of starting and running my first company, I developed and refined some techniques to overcome overwhelm. If I didn’t find a better way, I would have stayed stuck and sabotaged my success.

My first go to Overcome Overwhelm technique is to shut everything down and off. No laptop, no phone, no music, no TV, no sneaky multitasking. If you work from a home office as I do, tell anyone else in your home to zip it for a bit, employees included (my team is mostly introverted techies, so my workspace stays zen). If you work in an office setting go somewhere away from people, empty conference room, your car, bathroom stall (yes I’ve done this more than once). Breakout your journal or a clean notepad,📝 take a deep breath and ask yourself “(insert name) what do you need right now? No limitations.” Whatever your answer is, promise yourself that will honor that need. You may need a nap but you can’t exactly take one at work, so you honor your need by canceling any evening plans and drive straight home for an early relaxing night. My point is, you may not be able to fulfill that request at this moment, but you can still honor it by making a clean plan to honor it ASAP. By honoring your need, you are honoring yourself above all else.

Part 2: On a new piece of paper titled “Great Stuff,” “Smart Shit” or some other positive fun way to say “to do list,” list your absolute have-tos for today. Things with deadlines or high consequences only. Then on another sheet, do the same have-tos for tomorrow. You can keep going until you have everything listed that’s in your high-achieving brain. I tend to only do 2 days at a time, as that’s more than enough for me to digest. Plus, these lists shouldn’t be long, as they are have-tos.

The technique here is to make these lists achievable and manageable. So that you can actually cross each thing off for the day, and feel a sense of relief and accomplishment.

Share Your Talents with the World!

We are born with special gifts. Some people have a natural talent for sports, for singing, for drawing, for making people laugh, for science, and so on. Once those gifts are discovered it’s up to us to embrace them, refine them, and share them with the world.
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Sadly many of us have had our gifts buried and squashed, as our very gifts and talents threatened those around us. As children there isn’t anything we could of done differently. As adults, we can. We can open up and allow our gifts shine in the bright lite for the world to see. It may be hard at first as self-doubt and low self-worth can creep in, but I’m here to remind you that your higher self knows the truth. You know what your gifts are just as you are aware of your weaknesses.
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To keep those beautiful gifts from God sealed away or dimmed, shows the universe that you are ungrateful for those gifts. You were given these talents for a reason. Imagine if people like @thisisbillgates, @elonmusk, @tonyrobbins, @louise_hay_affirmations, Albert Einstein, and the Wright brothers kept their gifts locked away 🤔. Your gifts are just as valuable and needed as theirs.
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I have a gift for communicating, public speaking, educating, and mentoring. Would the world notice if I kept those talents locked away, NO. But keeping them in the dark doesn’t serve the world, and we are here to serve, support, and slay!

The Reality of Being a #GirlBoss Entrepreneur

 

 

☝️☝️What most people think entrepreneurship or girl bossing looks like on the daily. I don’t blame any of you for thinking it sounds glamorous, sexy, fun, relatively easy, and exciting, as that’s what most boss babes show on social media. I’m here to both teach you and tell you the real deal behind the scenes.

I started my first company 10 years ago (a Marketing/Sales, Public Relations firm). It was scary AF, exciting, empowering, and I was fueled with adrenaline for a solid year. After many mistakes, learning curves, and engaging with some dishonest people, the rose-colored glasses (AKA beer goggles) came off. Sitting in my office at my first big executive desk, I held my head in my hands, thinking 🤔 “holy shit what did I get my self into?!” At this point in starting a business, a new career, or even a relationship for that matter, 95% of people will give up, quit, or self-sabotage. A true leader, entrepreneur, empowered woman doesn’t ever see quitting as an option. That doesn’t mean I wasn’t feeling frustrated, frazzled, stuck, a bit lost, and scared. I was feeling all of that and then some.

Each month and each year I got smarter and more efficient at running my business. Over the last 10 years I’ve had glamorous moments of being paid to speak to thousands of people, being flown first class on international trips to consult for high profile companies, and succeeded in closing an 8 figure business deal! However, there we far more bloopers than highlights and a ton of “basic” days built in.

If you have the inner strength and that deep inner drive to thrive, you have a great shot of creating a successful business/career. I’m far from Ms Positive Polly, so a positive attitude is far less important than believing you will find a way and figure it out. Please don’t try to attempt any of this alone, that’s a set up for failure and burnout. Find a mentor, even a digital one. Preferably someone who has been in the game for many years, versus someone who’s had a good 3-year run. DM me with any questions.😊

Worthy Now

 

 

 

You are worthy of the best of the best, 5-Star, top quality people, places and things. I can tell you that a million times but if you don’t truly believe it for yourself, you will NEVER attract it into your life.

Think about this: you are here for a reason, otherwise you wouldn’t be. A power greater than all of us sees you as a miracle, as perfect, as a chosen one born into this world. If you don’t believe you are worthy of greatness, at least believe that a power greater than you do. You are perfectly imperfect and good enough just as you are today. 💜, Tiffany

If this is your current mood…

Some days we will feel off, grouchy, depressed, uninspired, and downright bitchy. If you feel how my bulldog Molly looks today 😞

#1 give yourself permission to feel how you are feeling without judgment.

#2 Get quiet and still for a few minutes and lovingly ask yourself what it is you need right now? Allow the answer to come up and honor it without judgment. For me, I got sick almost a week ago, and I’m still not completely recovered, which is frustrating AF to me and my entrepreneur life. Since I never will suggest you do something that I haven’t done or do, I asked my self that question. The answer I received was patience, nurturing, and to go extra slow.
#3 Trying to figure out why you are having an off week or day is a waste of energy unless it’s a pattern you are seeing with yourself. As humans, we aren’t designed to always be happy, vibrant, motivated, inspired, and healthy (despite what people post on social)…our moods and energy levels fluctuate just as the hormones do inside our bodies.

💜, Tiffany

Soak in the Wisdom

 

Here’s one ☝️ thing you can do today to get closer to creating your Most Exceptional life. A life of financial independence, money savviness (is that even a word?😝), as an empowered vibrant woman.

Ready for it? READ. Yup, I want to read. Not just anything, I want you to dedicate time each day to reading on a subject you want to start a business in, or make a career change into; read about someone who you admire, who you would be thrilled to have a similar lifestyle/career to theirs.

Every multi-millionaire I know including me makes time to read 📚things that advance their skill set. If you hate reading or desperately need to multitask then use @audible_com, they have thousands of audiobooks.

If you are already reading 📖 then good for you, I just validated something you already do. Share in comments your fav books.👇

You were born to be real, not to be perfect!

Somewhere along the way, many of us developed the false belief that we have to be perfect, that we aren’t good enough just as we are. It’s a belief that kept me trapped for most of my life. I kept overachieving, dieting, exercising, doing, to the point of exhaustion, trying to achieve the unachievable, PERFECTION.

Of course I never achieved it and I nearly killed my self trying (that’s not an exaggeration…you will hear more of my insane story once my podcast launches). Now I’ve accepted that I’m a human being, not a human doing, and all I can do is my best. Accepting our humanness is to accept our quirks, our flaws, our physical limitations, our bodies while shining a big beautiful light on all the gifts we have to offer the world.

I’m I “perfect” at doing this acceptance thing every day? HELL NO. But I’m 1000000 times better, happier, calmer than I use to be. Truly that’s all I can ask for is progress, not perfection. 💜, Tiffany

Stay Weird

Aren’t you tired of seeing the same posts, people selling the same thing, people looking the same? It’s so refreshing when I meet someone virtually or in person that owns their magical, unique, weird, awkward selves, insecurities and all.

BUT it takes vulnerability and bravery to embrace our own weird selves, and put it out to the world. Some people can do it out of the womb, some can never do it, and the rest of us do it on our own time in our own way.

Stay weird, be weird, embrace your weird. It’s what will draw the right people to you, and incredible opportunities into your life. If you do the same shit as others in your field, you won’t stand out and therefor won’t make BIG money. I played it safe for many years, NO MORE! I got bored of my own damn corporate self. Being me flaws and all, good days, bad days, in between days, I come as me and it feels SO DAMN GOOD.

Learning to Day Dream Again…

When was the last time you day dreamed ✨? When you just allowed your mind to drift off for however long.

Most of us were kids the last time we drifted off into glorious, exciting, luscious thoughts 💭 of our deepest desires.

What did you day dream of when you were a kid? Did you ever manifest anything from those dreams?

While you drift off to sleep tonight, allow yourself to dream of a world where anything is possible. You can have and do anything you want without a catch. I promise you there’s a message from your inner child in those free thoughts, a message that badly needs to be heard.