3 Steps Towards Developing and Understanding Yourself

To up level our lives, it requires us to take a deep inventory of ourselves; our behaviors, beliefs, habits, character assets, charter challenges, and our actions. This by the way isn’t easy or comfortable, but it is necessary and well worth it.

You can certainly try to reach your next set of goals without doing the inner work, but I guarantee you won’t be happy with the result. I know this because I actively tried to avoid that work for many years, and I couldn’t figure out why I felt stuck and nothing was working. Although I was working my ass off and I was taking massive action and risk, I was a mess, unhappy, and unfulfilled.

When I finally got sick and tired of banging into the same rock wall, I surrendered and asked for help, to dive deeply inside. Doing personal development work each and everyday has taken me from surviving to thriving. I’m a better boss, a better negotiator, a better problem solver, a better friend, fiancé, and an overall better me.

You see if we don’t take the time and actions to learn how we get in our own way, then we can’t get of our own way to grow and achieve bigger, grander, amazing things. WE deserve the best in life and WE are worth doing the work to be our best selves.

Here are some action steps you can take today to get the process going:
1. Suscribe to some personal development podcasts that resonate with you ( mine will be launching here in 2 weeks, ProjectME the Podcast with Tiffany Carter). Just search “personal development podcasts.”

2. Buy a @tonyrobbins book 📖 or listen to books on @audible_com if you prefer. Other great authors I love are @melrobbinslive@iammelwells @brenebrown @jensincero@thechampagnediet @loriharder@louise_hay_affirmations.

3. Write 📝. If you don’t have a cute journal it’s ok. Use what you got, write in your notes app on your phone 📱 during lunch. Whatever writing ritual you create and stick with is what will serve you best. Free write on your biggest fears, insecurities, dreams, feelings and so on. The authors I listed above will prompt with you with questions to write about.

Taking action in developing and understanding yourself is one of the greatest acts of self-love.

The Reason Why I Avoided Starting ProjectME for SOOO Long

You guys may think I’m CRAZY, but I have to share my truth. I avoided starting ProjectME because of the personal branding necessary to have professional photoshoots. MY LORD was I terrified. This shot was towards the end of the day so I was a bit more comfortable, but still not allowing my self to enjoy it. I was too caught up in being worried that I look puffy or have rolls. I’m in recovery for exercise addiction, so having my picture taken is clearly still a huge trigger for me.

I knew I had to think bigger and remember I’m building this brand to empower and educate women to be financially free and independently wealthy. If people are focused on my body versus my message and teachings, then they have deeper issues to resolve.

I kept saying all during the shoot that I’m so comfortable in video and audio, but the still photography makes me feel so vulnerable and exposed. AAAAAAAH I can scream now recalling how I felt that day.

The lesson here is I didn’t allow borderline crippling anxiety to squash my vision. It took me months to do it, BUT I DID IT! I did it anyway and so can you. Whatever is stopping you from going after your dreams, there is really no way around it, you just have to do it anyway. Plus I hired a kick-ass empowered female team to support me through my vulnerable moments, and help me get out of that damn head of mine.

Thank you to my kick-ass photographer and successful entrepreneur Randi @bossbabephotography, my on-site glam Joanna from @cheektocheekartistry, my dynamic hair duo @alizalauren (color master) and @brittneyhodgins_hair(extensions guru). You ladies helped me get through one of my biggest fears, I’m so so grateful 🙏💜.

“TIFFANY, how do you do it?”

“How did you create a successful business and kept it growing for 10 years?!”

SIMPLE ANSWER: not alone. Yes when you first start, if you have no capital to invest or no investors, there are a ton of things you will need to do solo to manage expenses. As soon as you can please hire help, or hire an intern (or 3).

When I first launched my marketing/social media firm 10 years ago, I contracted one tech guy and brought on one intern (from my alma mater, @emersoncollege). As I grew, I brought in more people, paid for more of their time, and outsourced as much as possible. This way I could focus on what I do best (strategy, client relationships, contracts, and motivating my team).

There is no special badge you get for being a martyr and doing it alone, nor is there a bigger check waiting for you. In fact, if you don’t scale your business, you will lose it or sabotage its growth.

The creative energy from working with a diverse team is incredible. Some of my company’s biggest success stories weren’t my idea, and I’m perfectly ok with it.

If you don’t have the funds to hire people right now, bring an intern on board, schedule a meet up with other local entrepreneurs to brainstorm ideas for one another’s businesses, or recruit your Aunt Judy who is board as hell anyway (no I’m not kidding).

Don’t do it alone. You don’t need to nor are you meant to. Just make sure everyone you bring on paid or unpaid signs an agreement and a NDA (non-disclosure agreement). Yes even Aunt Judy has to sign ✍️ NO EXCEPTIONS.

Fuck Hustling and Honor Yourself

How many of you can relate to this beautiful drawing? Sometimes we can get so caught up in building our business and our dream life, that we forget to look at what’s going on around us. Guilty as charged.

I used to believe that the more I worked the faster I would accumulate wealth. Therefore, I would work head down for 12-14 hours a day 6 or 7 days a week. You know what that got me? A happy bank account and an unhappy Tiffany.

After 7 years of this, I thought, “there must be a better way, an easier way.” So I did an experiment. I worked until my body and brain said it needed a break and then I took one. I asked my self what I needed, what would feel good and nurturing right now. Sometimes I took a walk, played with my dogs, called a girlfriend, watched reality TV (my guilty pleasure), took a nap, a yoga class, or just sat in silence. The results of this year long experiment were incredible.

My bank account was just as happy as before, and I became a lighter, softer, kinder, happier, relaxed version of my self. I never knew this person existed inside of me. I was always so intense. Now I find those people annoying, although I have great compassion for them.

The belief that we need to grind away to achieve success is 💩 💩. Working smart is necessary, but slaving away work is not. Tiffany 2.0 attracts inspiring opportunities and I find great solutions to challenges, since I’m able to be more clear-minded and creative. My writing ✍️ has a more relatable intimate tone, as I’ve become more loving towards my self.

Fuck hustling and honor yourself and your needs above all else, the rest will fall into place. You will have much more energy to achieve your goals, and have a lot more fun along the way.

Overcoming Writer’s Block

WRITERS BLOCK: something few entrepreneurs and executives discuss. Most people think of “writers block” as something that novelists and journalists struggle with, but they aren’t the only ones who write for a living. In fact most business people in content/communication based business write far more copy than the average book writer.

Almost 70% of my work day consists of writing. Writing content, emails, social posts, web copy, press releases, and massive to-do lists. Some days, I just don’t have the writing ✍️ spirit. When you own your own company, you can’t just say “oh I’m not feeling it today, so I won’t.” There are personal deadlines, client deadlines, and editorial deadlines to meet. So I’ve come up with a few techniques to unblock and unlock my inner writer.

1. Select your smallest writing project on your “have to do today” list.

2. Set a timer. As a former TV newscaster, we were on deadlines so tight that we may of had to submit a story for air in 10 minutes!!!! (Yes it was stressful AF but exhilarating). So set a timer as though you are a journalist covering a breaking news story and you have to get it on the air STAT. For something 400 words or less, set your timer 20-30 minutes depending on complexity of task (ie. Press release Vs email). This technique makes your heart rate and blood pump, since you have created a race. Plus it makes the task less annoying sounding, since it’s just 20-30 minutes. You can do anything for that long ! (Well maybe not hold a plank)

3. Pens down when timer goes off. Now, you may not have created your final version, but your damn close. So now, all you have to do is edit, which is far easier than creating the initial structure.

Share your tips and techniques below in comments.

Celebrating the WINS!

Nothing feels better to me than chillin’ on warm white sand, looking out at crystal blue waters, in a fun foreign country. I went to Belize 🇧🇿 about 2 years ago to celebrate my mega personal development transformation. My entire life as I knew came crashing down, forcing me to figure my shit out and shine or slump into victim mode and sink.
I chose the harder path, TO SHINE. It took a full year of stripping my self raw to my soul, for me to start seeing and feeling the huge life shattering transformation I made. This self work is not for everyone, in fact most people quit when the discomfort of facing our feelings and insecurities goes on too long.
The gifts that come from doing the work and taking massive action, feel like mini miracles happening all around you. If you feel stuck or miserable in your life, do the work. You deserve to shine, and the best version of you is worth working for.

☀️So Belize, thank you for celebrating with me. You will always hold a special place in my heart. For it was the first time in my life I truly celebrated me and my achievements. 💜, Tiffany

Get Clear on your Dream Lifestyle


I’ve been manifesting and experiencing my dream lifestyle for 15 years now! Truly I’ve been manifesting my entire life, but I didn’t have a name for what I had been practicing.

Now my lifestyle looks different than when I was 25, but our dreams evolve as we do. The point is, I continue to be crystal clear on what I want my life to feel like and look like. That clear vision allows me to set a clear intention, and this hyper-focus helps manifest my desires.

By 27, I decided that I only wanted to fly in first class for flights 3 hours or longer. So that’s what happened. Now did I break out a credit card and spend 10k on an international first class flight, hell no. I was smart and crafty about it and used airline miles to upgrade my self, along with a slew of other tricks I learned. Executing your dream lifestyle doesn’t have to break the bank. If you want it badly enough and are open to new possibilities, creative solutions to meet your goals will appear.

So whether you want to live near the beaches of Southern California like I do, in the country on a farm, own a Ferrari, travel the world, or stay at home with your children, YOU CAN! It starts with getting crystal clear about the lifestyle you desire, the more details the better. Then stay open to infinite possibilities that can get you to your goal. It will happen, in fact, it is happening for you now, but let’s get there faster. Are you with me????

You Are Loved


In case you momentarily forgot, you are loved regardless of how much money you make, how much you weigh, how many followers you have, how many IRL friends you have, and how productive you are on any given day.

You are loved as a human being not a human doing. The BIG and most important question is: do you love yourself regardless of all the above? It’s ok if your answer is no, mine use to be a big fat NO. What’s important is your awareness and honesty with yourself. If you answer is anything except “FUCK YES I Love my self regardless,” then there’s some inner work to be done.

If I went from a “fuck no” to a “fuck yes,” I know you can too and you deserve it!!! Love you, Tiffany

When the going gets tough…


When everything seems to be so hard, so much work, and not much fun, we can easily lose sight of why we decided to go after our dreams in the first place.

This feeling of discontent and dissatisfaction is a sign that we have lost contact with our higher selves and our higher power. The good news is with a little effort and a heaping spoonful of surrender, we can get back into alignment.

I tend to land in this negative space when I’m trying to do too much out of a space of forcing and pushing, which is fear. I want my dream business to manifest quickly and I start thinking I can control that by frantically taking action. The action is great but not when it’s centered on fear.

Thankfully my body sends me clear warning signs (me getting sick) and thankfully I can recognize them and make necessary adjustments. This wasn’t always the case. I still slip into that fear mode, especially when I’m up leveling. That’s OK, I’m only human. Plus I get to share these nuggets of wisdom with all of you, which I pray will help you catch yourself too. Catching yourself is a far better outcome than quitting. 💜, Tiffany

Don’t Look Back, You’re Not Going That Way.




When driving, it’s important to look at the review mirror, but if you stare at it, you will crash.

The same principle applies to our lives. Yes it’s important to reflect on our past, but to stay focused on that for too long will keep us stuck.

If you find yourself in a low energy space, check-in and see if your focus has drifted off the present and into the past. I tend to stay a bit too long on Memory Lane when I’m feeling fatigued or under the weather. Turning onto What If Avenue and If Only Circle, only leads to depressing destinations.

I pull my rental car over and regroup. I reset my GPS to the present, a route that leads me to hopeful and exciting destinations. For I have a choice of which direction I follow, and I choose today.