“YOU DID WHAT??!!!” This is something I think or sometimes say to clients and women I mentor. Not in a shaming or judgmental way, more so out of shock. Then I take a few deep breaths and help them correct the situation. It amazes me how many mistakes, drama, and loss of money could be avoided by simply pausing and not reacting.
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Making a decision when in a space of fear, anger, frustration, depression, or any other low vibration emotion is dangerous. None of us think clearly when we are caught up in the moment of something. I remind people over and over again, to pause when something or someone pushes your buttons. Ask for guidance from a trusted mentor, coach, therapist, the Universe, and for sure your higher self.
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The first and most important step is to pause and do nothing. If someone is pressuring you to make a decision, tell them politely that you need 24 hours. Unless it’s a life or death situation, everything can wait 24 hours. If not, say you need until the end of the day. You don’t need to provide an explanation as to why. The why is none of their business.
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This advice also applies to replying to emails, calls, and text messages. I promise you will NEVER regret pausing. No client or mentee calls me in a panic because they paused. It’s always because they didn’t and now there’s a mess to clean up. Sometimes those messes can’t be cleaned. Write the word “pause” on a post-it and put it somewhere that’s a danger-zone for you to react.
