Category: Self-care

How I Push the Reset Button

You are not alone but I understand it feels that way right now. Please pause and press reset on yourself. You can only do so much, you are awesome but you are not a machine, you are a human being not a human doing.

SOME THINGS I DO TO RESET MY SELF WHEN ON SYSTEM OVERLOAD:
-I stop doing anything for as long as I need to, for my nervous system to calm down.
-I take a bath (I’m in one now actually 😛) and focus on something I enjoy, something positive (hence me writing this post).
-I check in with myself and ask what do I need right now without judgement? Then I honor my needs. Whether it’s food, a nap, a cry, a healthy distraction, alone time, whatever.

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The Cycle of Codependency

 

The term Codependent gets way overused, often shaming people for it. The TRUTH is most of us as some point in our lives exhibited codependent behaviors. AND THATS OK. The pain and suffering that comes with codependency, propels many of us (me included) in action and behavior change.

Truly society, marketing campaigns, movies, and romance novels all fuck with our brains. That awful line “you complete me,” or “I’m so much better with you than alone.” 🙄😱😱😱😱😱I bought into that BS too. It’s not healthy and takes us further away from ourselves and self-worth.

No job, no person, no place, no thing completes us or makes us better or happier. It’s a temporary illusion, that keeps the codependency cycle going. I’ll be sharing more on this subject in my IG Stories today.

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Stop Fixing, Start Breathing

I couldn’t agree more with @nakedwithanxiety. Read more below👇so necessary 💜

At the start of every new year, we’re bombarded with messages encouraging us to “fix” every aspect of our lives. And that is overwhelming AF.

Take a deep breath before you settle into sleep tonight + visualize yourself exhaling the pressure to “do everything at once.” You are only ONE human being + it’s unfair to expect yourself to be able to do everything. Readjust your standards to a more realistic setting whenever necessary.

And remember that you’re not a problem to be solved or fixed 👊🏼💖.

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How I Cope With Being A Highly Sensitive Person


Someone calling you dramatic or saying your “over-reacting” when you are upset is a subtle form of control and abuse. Yes there are people who go into an intense reaction mode, and that can look and feel crazy 🤯However, I’m not referring to those people in this post. I’m referring to those of us who have strong feelings about many things and who are sensitive to others moods, words, tones, and non-verbal cues.

Just because you’re upset and “feeling” that doesn’t give someone the right to try to get you to stop by putting you down. Most likely you are NOT over-dramatic or “PMSing” you are simply feeling your feelings and that makes them uncomfortable. Their problem not yours.

If you are a Highly Sensitive Person #hsp like me, extra self-care is necessary or you will burn out, get sick, or both guaranteed.

If you think you may be a HSP but aren’t sure, Google it, there are many free tests and assessment questionnaires online.

YES men can be HSPs too and NO being a HSP isn’t a bad thing. It just requires awareness and attention, so you can manage it to your benefit.

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What is Your Body Telling You?

 

Pause and ask yourself, “what is my body trying to tell me today?” Then honor that answer even if your ego doesn’t want to. If you don’t. I guarantee your body will go from whispering to you, to telling you, to shouting at you, to screaming, and then it will just knock you on your ass. Especially if you are a strong willed achiever like me, please honor your body. I wish I had someone telling me that years ago. I had to learn the hard way. So now it’s my calling to share it with all of you. 💛🙏

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I Hope You Know How Wonderful You Are

If you are not in a good shape and don’t see hope please send me a dm . I am here for you and you matter to me.

I’ll be here all night , available to Answer to your messages. You know who you are .

Those looking for a free reading please do not dm. Leave the channel open for who REALLY needs it . ( i rather make this clear here ) .

For my happy brothers and sisters instead I wish you amazing day and hope This can inspire you somehow .If you have some extra strength in your heart, share it. You NEVER know how much your presence can make a difference in someone’s life. Is there anything more beautiful than making someone feel how wonderful they are in a moment in which they could not see it at all and feel like a burden to the world?

I love you! 💕🙏🏻💖💖💖😘🙏🏻💕😘💖😘💕💕😘💖💕😘💖💕

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Necessary R&R

I use to look down on those who rested or napped unless they had a hard core medical condition. Oh how wrong I was and the Universe humbled my ass. Thanks Adrenal Fatigue stage 3/4.

Now I know regular rest is a crucial part of my success recipe. The key is to rest before you are tired. Much like they tell you to drink water before your thirsty. Once your thirsty, your body is already dehydrated. Once you are tired, you are already worn out!

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You are NOT a Hot Mess

ProjectME with Tiffany Carter

 

 

Be mindful of how you refer to yourself and how you allow others to describe you. If it’s critical even though it’s comical, the Universe doesn’t know the difference.

I use to call my self a hot mess all the time and it’s one of the behaviors that kept me stuck. So I’m incredibly mindful of how I describe my self and what I allow others to call me. I use to allow people to call a hot mess as well, which multiplied that validation to the Universe.

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Body Shaming

I was recently publicly body-shamed or perhaps it was a critique that felt shaming to me. It felt humiliating and uncomfortable AF. Given the setting, I said nothing in response. The worse part for me is that it came from another woman. Regardless of who said it, I would have been triggered.

As I processed this shame over the last several days, a very wise woman reminded me of the above 👆 quote. It stopped any remaining shame in its tracks. I’m sharing this vulnerable story in hopes it helps someone else. 💙💙💙

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Simple Tricks to Boost Energy!

I’m risking sounding and looking totally cray right now, but I’m telling you it works. I struggle with fatigue from a chronic medical condition, so I’ve found little tricks that give me an energy boost. So I think of an energizing high vibration feeling, in this case, super duper excited, then I make a face and/or gestures that express it (as seen in above pic 😝👆).While I’m doing this, I vision something that would make me feel this way. So it’s a two-fer, manifesting plus an energy boost. Try it!!! Right now!!! If anything it will make you laugh!

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