So for once, you take time for yourself, you say no without some lengthy excuse, you tend to your needs over someone else’s and you get the response “it’s all about you isn’t it!” Or one of the hundreds of versions of this shaming and shitty line. Does this sound familiar to you?
Typically, immediately proceeding this “dig” some guilt arises. “Oh well maybe I should go, I don’t want to let anyone down…I’m probably being selfish.” Well FUCK THAT, I’m here to assure you with 100% confidence that putting the focus on you and your needs is the most loving, caring and honorable thing you can do for you and others. Many in your life won’t like it, especially if they are use to you catering to their needs over your own. Either they will grow to accept it and respect it or you will need to disconnect it.
Just for today, put the focus on you. Whether that means canceling plans or taking a nap versus cooking everyone dinner for the 5th night this week, experiment and witness your reaction and those around you.
Spoiler alert! If you aren’t use to putting you first, this will most likely feel odd, strange, uncomfortable, guilt ridden, etc…. BUT that’s the first step. You can’t get to where Im at (see 👆image in post) without walking or crawling (as I did) through the uncomfortable feelings.
I promise you the short term discomfort is worth it for a lifetime of how I genuinely feel today. Unapologetically yes, it is all about me! If you have an issue with that, get on board or peace ✌ out.
👇Comment below on what thoughts/feelings come up for you even thinking about honoring you above all else.
🙏Blessed to be on this journey with you.