The Cycle of Codependency

 

The term Codependent gets way overused, often shaming people for it. The TRUTH is most of us as some point in our lives exhibited codependent behaviors. AND THATS OK. The pain and suffering that comes with codependency, propels many of us (me included) in action and behavior change.

Truly society, marketing campaigns, movies, and romance novels all fuck with our brains. That awful line “you complete me,” or “I’m so much better with you than alone.” 🙄😱😱😱😱😱I bought into that BS too. It’s not healthy and takes us further away from ourselves and self-worth.

No job, no person, no place, no thing completes us or makes us better or happier. It’s a temporary illusion, that keeps the codependency cycle going. I’ll be sharing more on this subject in my IG Stories today.

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Stop Fixing, Start Breathing

I couldn’t agree more with @nakedwithanxiety. Read more below👇so necessary 💜

At the start of every new year, we’re bombarded with messages encouraging us to “fix” every aspect of our lives. And that is overwhelming AF.

Take a deep breath before you settle into sleep tonight + visualize yourself exhaling the pressure to “do everything at once.” You are only ONE human being + it’s unfair to expect yourself to be able to do everything. Readjust your standards to a more realistic setting whenever necessary.

And remember that you’re not a problem to be solved or fixed 👊🏼💖.

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Respect Your Money

 

This mirrors one of my money 💰 lessons I teach in my ProjectME Program: You can get rich a dollar at a time, or you can go broke a dollar at a time.
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Respect every dollar, every penny you come across. If not, you will start losing money here and there.

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New Mindset, New Results!

 

 

One of the core strategies of my ProjectME Program is creating a new mindset. Once you follow those steps to creating a new healthy mindset, new results will follow immediately.

Most of us aren’t aware what beliefs we have simmering below the surface, so those must be unveiled first. People (including me) are always surprised at what they uncover.

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Manifest Money

 

The ProjectME money program “Massive Earnings,” will be a unique approach to help you remove those money 💰 blocks. One major block ☝️☝️☝️is around receiving. So many people have resistance to receiving gifts, help, love, compliments, recognition and therefor money. You may accept that money, gift or compliment but it’s followed with a massive dose of guilt and/or obligation. Which just sends an energetic message that you don’t want to really receive.

I’ll be sharing some of my personal journey around receiving and teaching you how I removed those blocks. I’ll give you a hint, low self-worth is a huge factor 🤔💜

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How I Cope With Being A Highly Sensitive Person


Someone calling you dramatic or saying your “over-reacting” when you are upset is a subtle form of control and abuse. Yes there are people who go into an intense reaction mode, and that can look and feel crazy 🤯However, I’m not referring to those people in this post. I’m referring to those of us who have strong feelings about many things and who are sensitive to others moods, words, tones, and non-verbal cues.

Just because you’re upset and “feeling” that doesn’t give someone the right to try to get you to stop by putting you down. Most likely you are NOT over-dramatic or “PMSing” you are simply feeling your feelings and that makes them uncomfortable. Their problem not yours.

If you are a Highly Sensitive Person #hsp like me, extra self-care is necessary or you will burn out, get sick, or both guaranteed.

If you think you may be a HSP but aren’t sure, Google it, there are many free tests and assessment questionnaires online.

YES men can be HSPs too and NO being a HSP isn’t a bad thing. It just requires awareness and attention, so you can manage it to your benefit.

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What is Your Body Telling You?

 

Pause and ask yourself, “what is my body trying to tell me today?” Then honor that answer even if your ego doesn’t want to. If you don’t. I guarantee your body will go from whispering to you, to telling you, to shouting at you, to screaming, and then it will just knock you on your ass. Especially if you are a strong willed achiever like me, please honor your body. I wish I had someone telling me that years ago. I had to learn the hard way. So now it’s my calling to share it with all of you. 💛🙏

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Learn From My Mistake!

 

 

 

 

I truly didn’t know this until about 3 years ago. I automatically answered everyone’s questions without much thought, even if I felt uncomfortable. Until one day after I complained to a friend about someone’s nosey questions, she said “you know just cuz they ask, doesn’t require you to answer them.” 😳 It never crossed my mind.

So now if I don’t want to answer someone’s question I don’t. I’m not a bitch about it, I just have a variety of ways to plead the 5th 😝

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You are NOT a Hot Mess

ProjectME with Tiffany Carter

 

 

Be mindful of how you refer to yourself and how you allow others to describe you. If it’s critical even though it’s comical, the Universe doesn’t know the difference.

I use to call my self a hot mess all the time and it’s one of the behaviors that kept me stuck. So I’m incredibly mindful of how I describe my self and what I allow others to call me. I use to allow people to call a hot mess as well, which multiplied that validation to the Universe.

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Body Shaming

I was recently publicly body-shamed or perhaps it was a critique that felt shaming to me. It felt humiliating and uncomfortable AF. Given the setting, I said nothing in response. The worse part for me is that it came from another woman. Regardless of who said it, I would have been triggered.

As I processed this shame over the last several days, a very wise woman reminded me of the above 👆 quote. It stopped any remaining shame in its tracks. I’m sharing this vulnerable story in hopes it helps someone else. 💙💙💙

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